Validation Vagabonding

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How are you complicit in
creating the conditions
you say you don’t want?


Standing on the side of the street with an empty cup
Won’t get you the change you preach of

However, Cowboys a Stetson does make

Impoverished by self esteem
Fueled by deafened courage
Barracked behind the clicks and taps of Twitter and Instagram

Self imposed outsider, predictable patterns
We are branded by society’s silence
Given a consolation bullet after denied for our FOID card

After you graduate, you can be whoever you want
You can be unique, like they were
You can buy freedom, but you’ll never be free as us

How are you going to fence in a field
But say it’s not a dog park
I‘m as much a dog as anyone else

I’ll get to Wyoming without a horse
I’ll stand on a federally owned ranch
They’re united by division

A county is not a country
However, Cowboys a Stetson does make

-A



Some people have the freedom to live in unhealthy conditions.
Think basements of parents houses, with a curfew to be back home
from the job you’re lucky they got for you.

Living with the thought that it will allow them to eventually dig themselves out into a healthy future.

Society’s involvement

Is there a circumstance where we can pardon that kind of behavior with the assumption that it’s intentional? 

For Example

European post primary education vagabonding to neighboring countries for cultural growth.
Mindset on lifestyle and mental development as opposed to western career focused ideology. 

The first problem is drawing validation from society, and quickly discounting the weight of self-justification just like self deprecation. 
You craft excuses for why you’re the way you are.
You then become a product of false intentions.

The second, larger problem is not having a clear picture of the next thing you want. 

I say “next” thing intentionally.

It’s too broad to envision an ideal future, and most often you’ll be wrong about what future you want.

However, chasing a clear annual goal or even a quarterly goal can allow for you to have fluency over your daily planning and disciplined decision making. 

Two easily identified personal growth areas

Initiation: starting the traumatic plunge into your vulnerable dreams. Publishing the instagram post, declaring your efforts, asking for support.

Sustaining: I am quick to start planning a business idea or jumping head first into project aesthetics, but I lack the discipline and more importantly the accountability to get through the low points of project trajectory.

This is highlighted in procrastinators, because the approaching deadline
directly correlates with action taken. 

Actionable solution: eliminate an “ideal mindset” where you limit yourself with things you wish you had bought to make your project complete.

Take a project through fruition with the tools you have, truly realizing you aren’t as limited by your ideal mindset. 

Sometimes, if you truly don’t have a lathe to make clean cuts in a furniture piece, rewrite the design to highlight the raw exposed chips and pieces from you hacking away with an axe. 

Maybe that’s a little too carpentry.

If your dream is to bike around Lake Michigan.
You might give up on that dream if you don’t have enough money for a new upgraded touring bike.
I propose you redesign your dream of riding around the lake to highlight the core of that dream.
If it’s to self-sustainable camp, you can do that on this side of the lake too.
If it’s to ride a bike a long time, you can see how long you can push your current bike.
If it’s to have a bike to begin with, you can rent a DIVY bike, and see how you like it.

The point is to go for it,
purposefully smaller scale than you think you need
so that you actually get off your ass.

I have received feedback that these posts can be a little too concise.
I understand that my segues assume you have comprehension of my convoluted train of thought.

I would love to one day go into depth, with examples and extrapolation, perhaps in book form.

So, if you connect to a particular part of my posts, or are completely lost and disconnected, please let me know.

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Andrey@andreystarostin.com

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Thank you for reading this far.
You mean the world to me.
I write for you.

This post was inspired by a question from a dear brother of mine.
Thank you for your inspiration Kai.

2 comments on “Validation Vagabonding”

  1. Breaking that large, long-term goal into smaller achievable steps along the journey is one of those concepts that I subconsciously resist despite acknowledging its practicality. The source of this resistance is that many of us hold dearly onto long-shot dreams that we know deep down probably aren’t going to come true. I’d love to be a famous musician or professional disc golfer, but the odds are stacked ridiculously against me. That doesn’t stop me from passionately pursuing those goals haphazardly, but trying to break them down into realistic quarterly steps just depresses me because I have to confront their unlikelihood. Some may say that the solution is having more realistic goals, but we escapists find no fun in that. I guess the necessary precursor to plotting a course is truly believing that the destination exists. (Easier said than done)

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    1. Is there a chance you are pigeon hole’ing yourself in assuming what the small steps are to get to the lofty dream?

      I mean you’re not going to stop throwing a disc. And you have repetitively said if the world ended you’d still find a way to play guitar.

      Maybe you’ve set a barrier instead of a goal and only view it as unreachable, disregarding how far you’ve already come.

      I’d say you’re on the precipice of stardom considering your guitar skill. Maybe marketing is where your achievable steps lay.
      I’d say your disc golf is well on its way as well. But I’m unfortunately ignorant to where those steps take place.

      You’re too close to the project.
      I love how much passion you have.
      It’s just buried you into disbelief because of the standard you hold yourself to.

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